'She sent you money you didn’t deserve': 80-year-old woman met with high expectations from her entitled extended family, after supporting them for decades, her only daughter refuses to let them rely on her mother for any more financial favors

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Emma Saven
Aug 18, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Picture flying on a plane and suddenly the oxygen masks fall, you know the rule…put yours on first, then help those closest to you, but you know deep down that you're just not that type of person. So you help those sitting next to you secure their masks on properly and then finally reach for yours. Now the same people sitting next to you reach out a hand at your oxygen mask, and you feel a sense of gratitude, but instead of helping you put it on…they grab it for themselves to ensure they have access to oxygen if needed…and there you are, left breathless with nothing more to give.

When you offer too much of yourself, sometimes expectations can become blurred…Many of us would do whatever it takes to help a family member in need, but when they are taking so much from you that you can now longer provide for yourself, things tend to get a bit complex…This single mother spends her life providing for her children and her siblings…Her siblings never bothered to work or pay her back for the money she lent them over the years. They were happy with simply taking. But when they start to go after the 80-year-old mother's pension fund and will, her daughter is left to fight the rest of their family for her mother's last assets and respect. 

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  • When this daughter discovers the ill intentions of her aunt and uncle, she feels obligated to ensure that they do not gain anything more from her mother. That is, after her aunt claims that as her mother was her main provider, she too should be listed in her will as one of her dependents…Does this sound like a coincidence or a decade-long plan of malicious intent?

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    My mom (82 now) divorced young at 34 and never had another relationship. She was the only sister in her family to finish
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    university, and over the years as a single mom of two she supported or helped all seven siblings plus her parents at different times.
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    One sister in particular married a a cheating husband who was constantly in shady/illegal business deals that even got my
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    aunt in legal trouble. He looked down to my mom and once insinuated that if my mom missed her ex they (brothers in law) can
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    "take care of her" (if you got the hint you knew) Despite all that, when his ilegal business didn't work out anymore
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    my mom would send my aunt money monthly so "they could eat" (I really hope she stopped by now).
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    One day my aunt called asking for more money. When my mom said she didn't have it, she overheard my uncle in the
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    background saying: "What does she even do with her money? She has nothing to spend it on." Like... excuse me? My mom, who raised
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    kids alone, worked hard, and STILL sent you money you didn't deserve? And it gets worse. Another time, my aunt actually told my mom
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    that her husband's sister (a lawyer) said that since my mom was "supporting" her, once my mom ds my aunt would be
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    entitled to her retirement money because she was her "dependent." My mom met a guy and started a seen him at 80! My aunt was so
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    mad with the possibility to loose the retirement plan to this guy she made his life h I. He caught my aunt checking inside my moms purse!
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    As if that wasn't enough, my cousin (the daughter of this aunt) told my mom she could "help her with government paperwork" and
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    charged her for an entire year. When I found out, I did the same paperwork myself in one week... for free. Entitlement seems to run in that branch of the family tree.
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    Apart-Ad-6518 entitlement seems to run in that branch of the family tree. Let's add greed, laziness & delusional to that.
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    readergirl35 The correct response to being told that helping sister means she's a dependent and plans to claim your money when you di is, "thanks for telling me, I'm now going to stop helping you so there is no mistaking that you are not my dependent."
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    honeyLixlie That whole branch is just leeching off your mom and still acting like she's obligated to keep paying. They should be grateful she helped at all, instead they're treating her like a retirement plan.
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    Garden_Lady2 Wow, tell your mom to make sure her will and any paperwork is very specific so her family doesn't swoop in and try to take everything. She should really go no contact with them but considering she hasn't done it already I doubt she'll do that.
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    Forsaken Pick3201 I think it is time to visit a lawyer to protect your mom's pension and finances. I hope she can be strong enough to keep saying no.
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    Ingrown ToenailsHurt Time to cut the branch of the tree off and discard it.
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    ArtisticMix2632 Here is a thought. Do not talk to or communicate with any of them for any reason. You are not family to them. You are merely a wallet.
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